Becoming sisters just doesn't happen over night....
It is a process.
There are a lot of issues to sort out....
The 'littles' both had/have some accepting to do...
Some adjusting .....
For Shea this journey of sisterhood has been filled with anticipation....
As well as some trepidation....
She has been
This has been hard for her to give up - the exclusivity.
Since Avery has been home, Shea has expressed more than once the following statements:
"What's the big deal about Avery?"
"I am jealous!" (Which we all felt was very healthy for her to verbalize! We never really have to worry about how Shea feels about anything!!!)
"She doesn't know anything."
"Why is everyone looking at her?"
"It's dumb that she can't speak English."
"Why couldn't she be a baby?"
"I don't want to share my toys...or you [MOM] with her!!!!!!"
This picture kind of sums up how Shea can feel about Avery at times:
However, this very same child (the jealous one) has lately been showing extreme amounts of patience with Avery....letting her do things first....helping her to get dressed....comforting her when she is sad.....allowing Avery to play with some of her best toys!!!
My Shea....(sigh) she really has a big heart! And, always a big opinion with very strong emotions. (Lord help us when she is in middle-school!!!)
For Avery, heck....this little girl really had no idea what was coming her way...
And then to end up with a very jealous, dominating 5 year old sister...wow, way to hit the road running!!!
Avery had/has so much processing and accepting and trusting to work through. Overall, I personally think she is doing amazing.
Initially, Avery was intrigued by Shea...
She carefully watched her every move..
Tentatively joined in activities with Shea...
But, mostly played by herself.
Within the last week a lot has changed between the little girls...for the better...maybe there is a little love among the two....????
They are actually doing things together.
They play dollies....together.
They make huge messes all.over.the.house.....together!!!!
In fact, they knocked over one of my good lamps.....together.
Avery is getting a good grasp of the English language...
She says the following statement quite often now:
"Shea-dell, let's go."
"Shea-dell, come here!"
"Where are you, Shea-dell?"
"Hold hands, Shea-dell." (This one is my personal favorites!!!)
She also says:
"No, no, no, Shea-dell!"
"No, no, no, Shea-dell!" (Oh yeah, I already said that one....I guess I hear it A LOT!!!!)
There is much fighting, tattling, struggling for attention, and yes, even hitting among my...ahem....angels.....(??)
But, there is also this:
Playing together.....such sweetness!!!
I 'caught' them playing 'doctor' this morning....
And in a turn of events, which actually is quite surprising to me...
Avery played the doctor and Shea played the nurse. Ummmmmm, very interesting. I would have thought it to be the other way around......
Oh well, there will be no complaining on my part!!
Giving Shea a shot in her foot!
Taking Shea's temperature.
Blood pressure...just a little squeeze.
Nose check. (???) I hope she doesn't find anything interesting in there!
Clean bill of health!!
Happy girls make for one very happy (and blessed) momma!!!