Questions, Questions, Questions....

"My first momma couldn't care for me? Why?"

"Will I see my China momma in heaven?"

"Do you think I have a brother or sister in China?"

"Can I write her a letter?"

"I guess it is kinda cool to know I have three mommies."

"Will I ever meet her?"

"Did I use a pacifier?"

"What was my first word?"

"Was I a cute baby?"

"Do you think she misses me?"

"Is it because of my cleft palate?"

"Why couldn't I grow in your tummy?"


*Deep breath.*


These are all questions that Shea and Avery have asked me over the past several years.  At first, the questions literally took my breath away.

Especially the first one.

I was so unprepared.

Shea was only three and a half when she asked me why her first momma couldn't care for her.

It was utterly heartbreaking.....

We were reading Shaoey and Dot: Bug Meets Bundle by Mary Beth Chapman and Steven Curtis Chapman.

We had read that book many times before.

But, suddenly at that time at that moment....

Shea asked about her first momma.

Shea asked why.

"Why couldn't {she} care for me?"

It brought tears to my eyes.  My little girl was three.

Only.three.years.old.

I remember telling myself to breath.

I should have known it was coming.  Right?

I was so unprepared.



Now.

These questions?

They are becoming a part of  "our normal".

These questions no longer take my breath away.

My heart still aches for my girls.

They are only six and five years old.

These 'topics' are so deep.

So primal.

So part of who they are and who I am as their mom.



Normal.

Normal?

Our normal.



Do I have all the answers?

No.

Will I ever?

No.

Do we ponder the fairness of it all?

No.

I mean, what is 'fair'?

Will it change anything?

Nope.

Adoption is complicated.

Life is complicated.

Bottom line:

Shea & Avery know and trust that they can talk to me about anything.

They know that I love them.

COMPLETELY.

UNCONDITIONALLY.

ALWAYS.

Even better.....

They know they are loved by a God who knew them and formed them before they were born.

They are precious children of God.

They are His treasure.

They are valued by Him.

They will need to hold on tightly to these truths.

Why?

Because I believe the questions will get harder as Shea and Avery grow older.

They will become wiser and more aware of the ways of the world.

The questions will be more complex.

More challenging.

And the answers might be harder to hear.

Harder to understand.

Down right frustrating.

Perhaps heartbreaking.

And I as their mother need to be ready and as prepared as I can be....

For the questions.

Because this is not about the answers.

Not really.

This post is about the questions.

About making sure my little girls feel secure enough to ask these questions.

And that these questions not necessarily define us as a family, but that these questions are just a part of who we are as a family.

These questions are part of:

  Our Normal.

Loving {some} Ice cream

My little girls love, love eating ice cream.

On Sunday, we took a stroll through our downtown area.
It was a beautiful day.
A perfect day for ice cream.

Well, I believe everyday could be a perfect day for ice cream.....

I think Shea and Avery would agree with me on that!

Look how completely absorbed they are in their 'ice cream-ness'!

I think they are in some sort of an ice cream-daze.......

Does it get any better than this?

Apparently it does....

Nothing like eating ice cream with TWO spoons!

May we always be happy while eating ice cream.  :)

Sunday Snapshot {Piper.....the puppy!}

Meet Piper!

She is an eight week old Husky.

Isn't she a-dorable??
I'm in-love.....

She's not mine, though. :(
She is Faith and Jon's new puppy.

However, we are getting to know this sweet little pup real well.....

We are puppy-sitting for the next three weeks.

And we are th-rilled!
Really!

Faith and Jon are moving into their "new" home that they just purchased at the end of the month.
(Which by the way, is only five- yessssss- only five minutes away from this very happy momma.....but I digress.)

So in the meantime, we are baby puppy-sitting....

And lovin' it.

Just look at this cuteness.....

She is drinking from our chocolate lab's water dish,

Apparently her 'little' dish isn't doing the trick.

Bretta, our big ole 'puppy'....

Is pretty 'chill' about the Piper pup:

We definitely LOVE our Bretta!

And we are definitely lovin' Piper.....

And yes, this cutie-patootie has bi-colored eyes.

Very cool!

Check out all the other Sunday Snapshots here:

Three years ago today.....

.....I saw this darling child for the very first time EVER!!!!

My sweet Avery.....Qing Zu La.

I was totally smitten....
Captivated....
Knew without a doubt....

That I was gonna be her momma!

Love you Avery Lyra Zu La!!

FOREVER!!!!